Midlife Metamorphosis

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I’m in the midst of a midlife meltdown. Since 2021, a camera has captured this turbulent time while I’ve wondered why the heck I signed up to be the subject of a damn documentary! 

Life has taken some sudden and shocking turns, and what I thought was solid ground continues to morph in messy unpredictable ways while the perfectionistic/people-pleasing parts of myself watch wide-eyed in panic. 

Our shared stories of love, loss, grief, succeeding, screwing up, death and rebirth, hit every human at different ages and stages, and occasionally knock us to our knees. Midlife just happens to be a time when these soul storms bring about big Change. 

For months, I’ve been using the metaphor of metamorphosis: feeling like I’m caught in a dense cocoon during that uncomfortable, insecure incubation stage once the caterpillar has left the safety of the garden and suddenly is confined inside a chrysalis, covered in goo, with bumps growing on its body and unable to see beyond its limited barriers… 

Last week, I visited the butterfly vivarium at the American Natural History Museum in NYC, and was deeply moved by the BEAUTY that eventually emerges from the goo.  

I learned it’s the “struggle” inside the cocoon that builds the strength of the wings. 

Recently, my friend and talented photographer, Jonathan Pozniak, met me in Palm Springs. As we played in the pool, something started to take shape from the watery depths – a magical metamorphosis, this time caught by his camera. 

Perhaps the best way to cultivate comfort during tough transitions is to remember that wonderful positive Change is always possible. 



10 Responses to "Midlife Metamorphosis"
  1. Christina says:

    Thank you for sharing your profound journey with such raw honesty and vulnerability. Sending love! Xoxo

  2. Sarah Taylor says:

    I’m honored to witness you and love you through the building of those strong wings. “Who am I?” is the ages old question that fosters deep insight and awakening. May it be so! xo

  3. Elizabeth Doyle Tierney says:


  4. Elay Doyle says:

    Adele, this is so beautiful. It is beautifully written and filmed. As someone who has reached the age of 76, realizations of who you are will probably continue until the day you die. It’s the very thing that makes old people wise. I wish you love through each and every realization and transformation.

  5. Stephanie says:

    Love you Deli and your consistent curiosity as a woman and artist!

  6. Mindy says:

    This is such a a beautiful and compassionate perspective on midlife. Thank you for sharing:)

  7. Clarita says:

    Good for you Adele!
    Feel Flow Grow
    Your heart resilient
    Your soul divine
    I bow to your re-creation!

  8. Keith says:

    Awesome! Is this documentary about you solely, or part of a merger project. We are all very interested in knowing more. Cheers to your mid life transformation. It’s the season ;). Here’s to an amazing second half and juicy eventually a juicy third act!

  9. Nancy says:

    WOW Adele! I’m speechless. This is such a beautiful and quiet intrepretation of the emotions and physical feelings you are obviously going through now. Wish i could express myself through movement like that. So raw and sensational. Just gorgeous. I am so proud of you to be so vulnerable and open like this. Amazing!

  10. Samuel says:

    I was not expecting that at all. Absolutely stunning. To be able to express pain and beauty like that is remarkable and so healing. I love you!

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